Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Of fatherhood, more fatherhood, ideas and sleeves



The sermon this Sunday was on the Lord’s Prayer and it gave a new definition to the term prayer, prayer is a relationship and that is captured in the first two words of the prayer. It is true the first two words offer universal son-ship and brotherhood, children of one God, makes us all brothers and sisters.

On the note of fatherhood Trinity is now giving so many fulfilling moments that make life so wonderful. Her eyes that light up when I enter home, the pure joy when I lift her up, the impish smile when she has done something that she knows is not permitted at her 10 months, when she cuddles in my arms, the baby steps the list goes on.

Trinity also has reopened my eyes to the small joys of life; every time I watch her amuse herself with just a piece of paper I wonder why I get bugged when I have nothing around me and retire to the idiot box. We have tried to amuse her with Fischer Price and Funskool but lose to a discarded sock, a piece of paper, a spoon.

The entrepreneurship bug has been flying around me for quite some time and now I am getting slowly bitten. Idea generation has never been a problem but the fear of failure has tied me down, now I have decided to take baby steps maybe inspired by Trinity again, however for these steps I must thank my classmate whose idea we are now attempting to bring into life. It is tough to devote some time for this with a full time job but the industry (where I work in) is facing an imminent bloodbath and maybe this can be a potential safety net.

And yes I am open to consulting with any potential entrepreneurs and am willing to give my ideas if they can use it and am currently sitting on a very nice smelling idea of anyone is interested.

Finally why do women wear transparent sleeves? Having the cake and eating it too? I think it is silly how about you? If you wonder why this is ending a totally unrelated post, another post will be on the way soon.

Friday, July 23, 2010

Of weddings, wedding halls and almanacs



It seems to be the wedding season with people around me getting married and this brought about a new post.

Weddings are made in heaven, but all the support roles are played here and unfortunately the support roles tend to take precedence on the big day.

If you don’t believe me, accept the fact that weddings are fixed based on the availability of the wedding halls and this availability throws up the auspicious date issues.

Wiktionary throws up the following for “auspicious”
Adjective
auspicious (comparative more auspicious, superlative most auspicious)
Positive
auspicious Comparative
more auspicious Superlative
most auspicious
1. Of good omen; indicating future success.
2. Conducive to success.
This is an auspicious day.
3. Marked by success; prosperous.
What it simply means is that a wedding on these days that have been decided by some one based on whatever divination techniques can bring success. Please note that the operative word is can as many weddings have been doomed even after all these but that was another post.

These auspicious dates help to sell calendars and they can be a nightmare to a wedding hall owner when bookings happen only on the auspicious dates because our people are still rooted in superstition or optimism whichever way you look at them. The saviours for these wedding hall owners are of course the discount sales selling everything under the sun that use these halls on inauspicious days to make a good buck. I get a feeling that some wise men laugh all the way to the bank on these days.

I can understand the mentality of the herds who say people will not start something on “bad” days so we should not do also, but what upsets me is that why do you need a particular day to visit the almighty? Whatever be your religion though I think this day concept comes from the majority way of life here, I do not think that God designed days to meet him. Do we not wake up on bad days? Do we not live on bad days? Are we doomed if we were born on bad days?

A wedding needs a few constants: a groom, a bride, 2 witnesses and some one who conducts the actual wedding. We choose to bring God into the picture because we believe that a wedding without God is like a building without a foundation (agnostics and atheists please excuse). Everything else the feast, the celebration, the trousseau, the beauty parlour, the entourage, the make over and every other small or big detail are purely optional so why make life miserable for everyone by focusing on something which is really inconsequential if you look it with a clear perspective.

A wedding will work only if the parties involved that is the bride and the groom choose to make it work, the parents, in laws and every one else should ideally be at an arms length away and I do think neither the lines on the hand or the stars or the friendly neighbour astrologer will have any say in it.

Time itself is relative, what is today for us is already tomorrow for some and still yesterday for some.

Wednesday, July 07, 2010

Conferences, weddings, Mani Ratnam and more

It’s been sometime since the great grandfather of all conferences got over; despite the lofty ideals it was simply a show of power by the ruling family who seem to run the state like the royals of old. It is sad that the fortunes of the future are in the hands of the ancient.

The great grandfather conference reminded me of the mother of all weddings when a one time foster son was married off in an extravagant show of wealth and power and crass misuse of public machinery. You can draw as many parallels as you may choose to but the net result is interesting, the raison d’ĂȘtre of the event the foster son is out of public domain and I hope that this conference does not kill what it celebrated.

The bandh gave an extra holiday to those mad regions run by madder men who fail to understand that fuel is paying so many other bills and if they will agree to a termination of the government’s largesse under the name subsidy then fuel pricing can be reduced. And for all those brilliant men who said that this will hit the common man, let me tell them where it hits me another common man:
- when the government senselessly gives away free TVs to people who end up selling it to others for a quick buck
- when the government gives food at 2 rupees or so and most of it is sold in the black
- when the government builds free housing to many who let it out and still live in shanties

wake up people the list goes on, I pay for all the stupid decisions the government makes and I for one would like cheaper petrol but which politician today has the guts to cut these?

Raavanan is a hit, Raavan is a flop and I have no clue on the status of Villain. This just goes to show that Mani Ratnam cannot have a one size please all, remember Guru? Come on Mani please resume making movies for your core audience, us Tamizh Makkal who still believe that Godfather pales to Nayagan. We have grown with you and have enjoyed the monosyllabic dialogues in the darkest of locales because some where you spoke to us. Why did you stop? And I wonder if I missed your wife’s review of the movie on her TV show.

Finally AR Rahman has made Semmoli the caller tune of choice for many. The song grew on me slowly as many other ARR numbers and now I can’t stop humming it at least the chorus part. I love that part where that folk singer (do not know her name) sings with a small jig and absolutely dislike Shruthi Hassan’s bit, Blaaze is the surprise part along with that singer (looks like Neha Bhasin). But it makes me wonder why we need so many non Tamizh singers to sing this or is it simple a sign of our inclusiveness?